In the movie Shall We Dance Susan Sarandon’s character is asked what she thinks about marriage or why does she think people still believe in marriage. I thought her answer was great and tonite I found myself telling myself I wish I had a witness to my life. Here is her answer:
“We need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet… I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things… all of it, all of the time, every day. You’re saying ‘Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness’.”
Yeah – that was a pretty choice scene. I myself don’t see what she got her shit in a twist about when she ran out of the competition. Dude wasn’t stepping out on her, or anything. I guess they just wrote it that way. The Peter Gabriel went well at the end, too. 🙂
This brings up something that I was talking about at work with someone. I wont go into specifics because they might find thier way onto my site one day and get mad but they had recently had a big fight because of something that one thought was no big deal and the other thought it was. And the one that thought it was a big deal insists that it all could have been avoided if the other person would have just Communicated what was going on, but since there was no communication things got blown out of proportion.
I believe lack of communication in a relationship where everything is suppposed to be out in the open (a marriage) leads to fights that could have easily been avoided. And in this movie, that’s what it was, lack of communication. She would not have gotten pissed if he wanted to take dancing classes but not telling her pissed her off.
Communication, big word and big fights if not properly used.
But what do I know. I am the most single person I know.
well for once i must simply agree with you sal. for communication is a great part of a relationship. and yeah sadly you are the most singel person i know as well, now that i have my hubby.
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Hubby? I thought he was just your BF. Man, that’s twice on this site I have found out friends are married and twice I get no invite! GOSH!!